Comments on: Pat Welsh shines a bright light on education and immigrant families http://udothedishes.com/2009/10/pat-welsh-shines-a-bright-light-on-education-and-immigrant-families/ Thu, 18 Mar 2010 03:40:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: John http://udothedishes.com/2009/10/pat-welsh-shines-a-bright-light-on-education-and-immigrant-families/comment-page-1/#comment-4039 John Thu, 22 Oct 2009 13:23:25 +0000 http://udothedishes.com/?p=9274#comment-4039 Having a parent at home is probably the first issue here. Low Income families, or single parent families often have no one to even stay on top of the child because the work or don't care. And the other point the article talked about was the lack of a father figure in a young child's life. As a young man, my mom could only put me in my place for so long until I realized that I was bigger and she really had no power to stop me. But Pops was a whole different story. That man was a hard working Navy captain and what he said, was law. It starts with parents realizing that instead of wishing a school, the government, the church, or any other organization will make their child a good student, that they have to give a shit and be an influence by setting up a good moral foundation and hard work ethic. You're right that this isn't some magical immigrant formula. My parents had it, and they instilled it in me. We didn't even have cable TV until I was a 10th grader. Homework right after school. Playing outside. Accountability, Consequences, punishment, satisfaction..etc. All the moral and cultural framework you speak of is essential. And most of the Parents don't even posses it themselves. Perpetual system of failure is what I see. Until someone decides to break the cycle and create perpetual success. And it's not limited to minorities either. Plenty of white kids who are in the same boat. Having a parent at home is probably the first issue here. Low Income families, or single parent families often have no one to even stay on top of the child because the work or don’t care. And the other point the article talked about was the lack of a father figure in a young child’s life. As a young man, my mom could only put me in my place for so long until I realized that I was bigger and she really had no power to stop me. But Pops was a whole different story. That man was a hard working Navy captain and what he said, was law.

It starts with parents realizing that instead of wishing a school, the government, the church, or any other organization will make their child a good student, that they have to give a shit and be an influence by setting up a good moral foundation and hard work ethic. You’re right that this isn’t some magical immigrant formula. My parents had it, and they instilled it in me.

We didn’t even have cable TV until I was a 10th grader. Homework right after school. Playing outside. Accountability, Consequences, punishment, satisfaction..etc. All the moral and cultural framework you speak of is essential.

And most of the Parents don’t even posses it themselves.

Perpetual system of failure is what I see. Until someone decides to break the cycle and create perpetual success.

And it’s not limited to minorities either. Plenty of white kids who are in the same boat.

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