Women want a prince; men want a porn-star

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I’ll preface this post by saying this is supposed to be a colorful and humorous take on these two topics.

Pornography and Disney movies are two of the worst contributors to faulty relationships between men and women.  Why you may ask?  It’s all about the standard and expectations they set.

This influence can be demonstrated by a simple word association which I will elaborate on.

Disney is to Men as Porn is to Women.

In essence, both Porn and Disney movies set a standard that most people are incapable of reaching or living up to, but one that has the viewers of such material expecting the glory and fairy-tails that they see on the screen.

Let’s start with Disney Movies, which I like to call by another name.  A guy’s worst enemy.  From a very young age children settle in to watch Disney movies en masse.  I bet every single person in my age group of 18-30 has seen at least 15 Disney movies.  These films captivated our impressionable minds and showed us a world that only seemed possible in dreams.  Well I have a news flash, it’s make believe for a reason.

In such movies like Aladdin, I, like many other guys,  probably enjoyed the fight scenes or the thought of black magic, while every girl in America saw only one thing.  A story book guy who  saves the day for the girl as a typical hero, and just so happens, goes from rags to riches as he marries the sultan’s daughter in the biggest wedding you could ever imagine.

What do young girls glean from this?

Hmm.  Huge Wedding fit for a princess? Check.  From a very young age the concept of a huge wedding is indoctrinated into a girls mind.

Man of my dreams that is willing to fight through all evil just to show his love for me?  Check.

Chances of that every happening in real life?  1 in a million.  You think that guy you slept with from McFadden’s last weekend is really capable of being a knight in shinning armor?

These examples are shown time and time again.  The incredible prince in Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, Swan Lake, and Snow White who all end up being the man of the girls dreams, a rich prince, and end the movie with a huge wedding ceremony.

Huge Wedding? Check.  Rich prince with no flaws and perfect intentions and timing?  Check.

Reality:  None.  I’ve yet to meet such a man.  If you can think of one, please let me know.  Now I’m not saying that men are not capable of being true gentlemen and dream worthy companions, but we are all flawed, and most of us don’t think deep enough to understand how to make a story book ending happen.

So what is the point of this rant?  Disney movies have been creating a standard in the minds of women, which sets men up for failure and crushes their dreams.   Most men will never live up to those standards even if they tried their entire lives.  We are too flawed.  Most couples who get married will spend way more money than they should on a wedding that has to have a story book feel to it.  Disney movies put fairy-tale dreams into the heads of young women, and men spend their whole lives failing to fit the mold that all women expect.  Prince and Perfection.

So all you women may now start to say, so what?  A man should treat a women like a princess.  A relationship should have a story book ending like the one I always dreamed of.  I very much agree that in a perfect world that is what all men should strive for.  My point is that the reality is not the same.  Your dream world is based on perception.  For women, they want the fairy tale ending with the big wedding and the happily ever after that is only real in the movies.  Women have ingrained that thought into their heads through movies like the ones made by Disney.

But this is a two way street.  Introduce pornography.  Now most women I know do not watch any porn, and if they do, I’m all but sure that it is in no way in the mass amount that men watch it everyday all across America.  Call it slimy, call it what you will, but it is a fact. Men watch porn a lot.

So the point I made above was the damage of the perception and expectations.  Disney=Woman’s dream world. For men, porn = their dream world.  And the standard that these women in porn set for women all around the world is unfair.  Men from a very young age can’t stop thinking about sex.  It is in their nature (my opinion).  I can recall the kid on the bus who stole his dad’s playboy magazine in 3rd grade.  We didn’t exactly know what we were looking at, but we knew we liked it.

So after years of exposure what is the by-product of porn?  It has set a standard in the minds of every man, that the actresses in these movies are what girls are like in real life.  And to make matters worse, the guys in most of these movies are the ugliest slobs you’ve ever seen.  This further emphasizes the fantasy that any guy can land an incredibly hot girl who is willing to be his sex slave at any hour of the day, at any place they chose.

School parking lot?  Check. Teachers pet?  Check. Cop?  Check. Library? Check.  No place if off-limits for submissive women doing a man’s sexual bidding.  Women, why do you think that when you get on the metro certain guys look at you all creepy?  In their minds they are subconsciously thinking, hmmm…this has the makings of a great porno, in fact I think I’ve seen this happen before on METRO SLUTS Part 9.

Reality?  Women in the real world are not getting paid six figures to sleep with you.  They won’t subject themselves to degrading sexual acts for you benefit, and if you look like Ron Jeremy, chances are you will be dating someone like Susan Boyle.

Men watch porn through-out their youth and when they finally get a girl in bed, they expect it to be just like they’ve seen on film.  But it’s not.  Never is.  If you want a girl like that, you need to join the porn industry.

Now some girls may subject themselves to what you see in the movies just as some men can be close to a prince with tons of money for a story book ending,  but in both situations I can guarantee each will have robust flaws.  I’m just saying that for the masses, it’s all fiction and not very likely, and it’s been screwing people over for a long time.

I guess the final take away is a catch 22 of sorts.  It’s the chicken and the egg scenario all over again.

Women want a prince and men want a porn-star.  One side has got to make the first move.

1.  All men start acting like princes, and the women follow suit and respond by all becoming porn-stars.

2. All women start acting like porn-stars and the men are so happy that they start treating the women like a princess.

Chances of either of those happening?

Zero.

udothedishes…